As a society, we do two things very well:
- Saying “Don’t feel sorry for yourself”
- Point fingers.
And in general this year, we’ve all been able to point our fingers at one person who represents a lot of finger-pointing-worthy societal issues. But this post is not about that. It’s about those of us that are really good at feeling sorry for ourselves for no real reason at all, and that also makes us very good at pointing fingers.
It can start very small with me: “Poor me, the barista at Starbucks made my drink wrong” can quickly turn into “And I couldn’t have made this coffee at home because I didn’t have time because one of my housemates was hogging the bathroom” then goes to “And I wouldn’t have to have housemates if I had a better paying job” and then it just keeps going and going.
And yes, I could trace this back really far to again, more societal issues. However, at some point I have to stop and ask myself: Am I pointing these things out to myself so I can then make a change? Or: Do I just like complaining?
Do you ever ask yourself these kinds of questions and then get really freaked out? They freak me out, they feel too closely tied to a bunch of really deep personality flaws I suspect myself of having.